As they instruct on an airplane, put your mask on before your child's.
Pamper yourself.
Your child deserves a healthy happy mom.
Get a massage, a pedicure, a manicure.
Go out with friends.
Go on dates.
This list is just a portion of advice for single moms that I have read or heard over the years.
When I read them or heard them, I didn't feel inspired. In fact, I felt downright awful.
As in, "To be happy, I have to do MORE?"
I am a firm believer in Single Moms putting themselves first and taking great care of themselves. However you can't follow someone else's recipe for happiness.
The single mom recipe for happiness can only be written by you.
Some things that helped me through the years:
* Pay close attention to your self talk. Aim to say only loving and kind things to yourself.
* You will mess up. Say kind loving things to yourself. All moms mess up. The mistake is not because you are a single mom.
* Include your children in the things you love to do. I love being outside in all weather. I spent hours on end playing outside with my children. It refreshed me. I got my exercise. My children got their exercise and mostly we had fun.
* I taught my children at a young age that 6 am was the earliest they could get up for the day. That gave me 5-6 a.m to write and exercise.
* Dating or not dating can both be happiness boosters. You choose!
Being happy and taking excellent care of yourself is not about doing anything more. It is about enjoying what you have and being kind and loving to yourself.
If that means a massage and a manicure then go for it.. If that means a game of touch football in the yard go for it. There is no one cookie cutter happy single mom.
As the CEO of your family you choose what makes a single mom thrive.
Blesssings,
Virginia.
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Blessings,
Virginia
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