Watch On Wednesday; Stick to Your Goals Even If It Is The Holiday Season

It is so easy to let the Holiday Cheer snatch your momentum in achieving your goals. Here are some ways to stay on track.

Remember, you matter everytime of year!

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Blessings,

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Monday A Course In Miracles

Thank you!

Happy Thanksgiving,

As I write here my three kiddos are washing all of the dishes from the feast I made.

Thank you!

We played our annual Thanksgiving touch football game. I, at 53, scored a touchdown.

Thank you!

All three babes under the same roof.

Thank you!

There is so much food leftover!

Thank you!

I am overflowing with love.

Thank you!

Tomorrow we get our Christmas Tree.

Thank you!

My kiddos are waiting on me to start a board game marathon night.

Thank you!

You are reading this.

Thank you!

Many blessings to you! 

Praying your thank yous are abundant!

Virginia

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Watch On Wednesday: Keep Trucking!

We can come up with so many excuses to NOT do what we love.

Don't make the holidays an excuse.

There is always time to do what makes you feel happy.

Blessings,
Virginia

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One college love has arrived home for Thanksgiving. My other college love will arrive home tomorrow. My heart is filling up. I am feeling so blessed.

The Holidays are here. Let the joy ring out. Let the gratitiude pour. Let all miracles come true.

It all sounds perfect for me and maybe for you.

But maybe not for your neighbor.

Maybe not for the store clerk.

Maybe not for the person who just cut you off in traffic.

Maybe not for that random person with a giant smile.

Or maybe not for you.

The Holidays are loaded with the expectation of perfect joy.

Yet not everyone is experiencing joy. Many are struggling.

This Holiday Season I invite you to do this with me:

Pay attention to the person in front of you.

The person in front of you is your child, your coworker, the person in front of you in the check out line, your partner, anyone you happen to run into and especially that person you see in the mirror everyday!

Pay attention.

Then find a way you can make your interaction more loving. Find a way to bring light to everyone you  meet.

The Holiday Season is about the gift of love. Let's all spread it! One person in front of us at a time.

Blessings,
Virginia

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Monday's Course In Miracles

All your past except its beauty is gone and nothing is left but a blessing. ACIM

Do Something Special For Yourself Just Because.

I exercised at 7 a.m.

I already got outside.

Yet late this afternoon I got an urge to walk the beach.

Today was  an enormously gorgeous November day.

As a Mainer,  I know these warm, late autumn days are a gift.

I still had work to finish.

But I had no more clients. I had no pressing deadline.

 I did, however, have quite a few more things on my to do list.

A walk on the beach seemed frivolous.

 It wasn't like I could give myself a big reward for accomplishing everything I set out to do today.

For a bit I squelched my desire to be at the ocean.

Then I decided to do it.

We can do something special for ourselves just because.

We don't have to earn it to deserve it.

Mother Nature supported my decision.

Blessings,
Virginia

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Watch on Wednesday ;Navigating Change Step Four

Greetings friends. Hopefully you are finding more and more things that make you sparkle. I am certain you have found amazingly fun ways to move your body. And in the spirit of Thanksgiving, I pray gratitude overflows your heart.

Now to step four.

Thank you for watching.

Remember to make the why about fabulous you!


Blessings,
Virginia

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Five Ways To Get Back On Track With Your Goal

 I decided I wanted to be stronger. So I added some more to my weight training and put some more umph in to my runs.

I was feeling good. I was on track.

One day while doing burpees my shoulder gave out.

I injured this shoulder years back raking the roof. It was a painful injury that took months to heal.

I freaked out. I thought of every worst scenario possible. I told myself I was too old to get stronger. I told myself I had another six month healing time. I told myself I should not have even bothered.

I told myself what we all tell ourselves when a goal gets siderailed: I told myself it was time to quit.

Then I laughed at myself.

I got the ice and the advil.

I babied myself a bit.  I iced my shoulder with an episode of Gilmore Girls.

Then I rewired my brain.

This is just a twist in the road. I can still achieve my goal.

 I found other ways to meet my goal of being stronger. I kept running. I worked my lower body. I started some balancing exercises.

Reaching a goal is never linear. Curve balls happen.

When the curve ball comes..

1. Let's laugh at our crazy thoughts. Especially the one that says quit

2. Let's simply do the most logical next step.

3. Let's love ourselves.

4. Let's change our minds.

5. Let's find more creative ways to move towards our goal.

Happy to say my shoulder is fine.  I am however doing a lighter version of a burpee.

Blessings,
Virginia

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Monday's Course in Miracles

And what is fear except love's absence? ACIM

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Blessings galore,

Virginia

Watch On Wednesday: Navigating Change or Disappointment Step Three

I almost didn't post a video today. I am not feeling very upbeat in light of the election results.

However, today I am doing the very things I teach.

Today I am navigating my huge disappointment while choosing to live.

Picking happy doesn't mean stuffing our feelings down. First we need to befriend the sadness and fury.

Sending peace to your hearts.

Blesssings,
Virginia

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Regardless of Who Wins We Still Get to Choose How to Live!

Today I voted and I hope you did too.

Tomorrow we wake up to a new President of our beloved country.

It could go either way.

Every president I voted for has gotten into offfice. My odds are good.

Yet.

Tomorrow could be different.

So I made a plan

1. Regardless of the outcome, I am okay.

2.Regardless of the outcome, I  still remain in love.

3. Regardless of the outcome, I  limit my exposure to news media.

4. Regardless of the outcome, I  limit my social media.

5.Regardless of the outcome,  I  find things to appreciate.

6.Regardless of the outcome, I move in fun ways.

7.Regardless of the outcome,  I create.

8. Regardless of the outcome, I find fun ways to conect with my kiddos.

9. Regardless of the outcome, I  meditate.

10. Regardless of the outcome, I do chores.

Nothing really changes tomorrow.

We still get to choose how to live.

Live well.

Pick Happy!

Blessings,
Virginia

  

Monday's Course In Miracles

I could see peace instead of this. ACIM

A dark cloud hovers over this election.

Trying to imagine  Donald Trump as President puts a very dark cloud over my thinking.

Yet I know that I can control my own thoughts.

I know that I can choose peace over hate. Love over fear. Joy over sadness.

I choose.

We all choose.

Tomorrow I vote for Hillary Clinton.

Because I choose peace over hate, love over fear and joy over suffering.

Blessings,
Virginia

Fall Back. My Extra Hour!

Yesterday on my facebook page I asked readers to give this extra hour to YOU!

Here's how I am giving it to ME.

 Gretchen Rubin gave me this idea. If you are not reading her stuff. Read it. She is brilliant. You can find her here.

I am giving myself this extra hour to get back to my five a.m. wakeup.

I lost it back in the summer when I was waiting up late for my kids to come home.

Those kids  have been tucked away at college since September. My one at home is an early to bed guy. I have no excuse. I just seem to find things to do after nine.

 I love how I feel as the sun is rising.

I love that writing hour before my one at home wakes.

So I kept my kitchen clock on yesterday's time.

In my kitchen it is close to 8 pm.

The kitchen is the last place I am before I go to bed. The last thing I do each night is make tomorrow's coffee on the timer.

Nine is the new eight.

Ten is the new nine.

Five am is the new wakeup time. And I couldn't be more excited

Hope you made your extra hour count too!

Blessings,
Virginia

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Five Thoughts On The power of November!

I love being awake just before the day begins.
I love Mondays.
I love my Birthday. New Year's Day. And the first day of every month.
I love anything that serves as a reminder to begin anew.

Today is the first day of November. Most of the trees have let go of their precious leaves. My perennials are past bloom and barring one annual that sits close to my house and my hardy mums, nothing is blooming. Nothing looks breathtaking anymore.

Even so the trees and the perennials are heading  into their hardest work of  the year.  They look ugly as they build roots and draw deeper into the earth for next year's growth.

In my years as a human, a counselor and a life coach I have found November to be a change month. November is when the days go dark leading us to go within and begging us to make significant changes in our lives. . Changes that start internally tend to stick.

Here are some thoughts as we embark on our new day,  new month and  new season of growing.

1. Stop waiting for the right time.
     
    The right time is now. Waiting to begin anything "Until I   ( fill in the blank)" leaves us paralyzed.

Stop the research . Stop the lists. Stop the what ifs . Stop the maybe whens.  Right now is the  perfect time to begin anything.

2. Commit to action.
   
    Commit to do something each and every day in the direction of our goal.  When we commit to something it becomes like brushing our teeth. We simply do it.

I move my body everyday. (moving my body sounds so much more fun than EXERCISE) I don't have to ever ask myself if I am going to move.  Rather, the question is, " How am I going to move today?"

2. Progress is never linear. Don't use it as a reason to quit.
    
     There will be curves, road blocks and rollercoaster like drops. That is life.  We could use these derailments as a reason to quit.  I once did. Then I realized how far I had come. So I began again. Back to number one.

3. Tiny steps matter the most.

   Restarting is often harder than beginning. Do a tiny step. Sometimes we cannot accomplish what we planned. That doesn't mean we cannot do something.

  Fifteen  years ago I commited to writing three pages each and every day. Thank you Julia Cameron. That commitment changed my life for the better. Most days I write  three pages. Some days I don't. But every single day I grab my notebook and my pen just so I don't lose the habit.

4. Let go of right and wrong.

   Polar opposites don't exist. We are never right or wrong. We are simply creating results. If we don't like the results we just tweak our thoughts and actions. Guilt will not help us in anything!

5.Love yourself

Saved the best for last!  Loving myself is the number one in everything I do.  I am far beyond perfect. Yet in loving myself  life gets sweeter. When I love me I get stuff done. When I love me  I don't care what others think. When I love me I can love you better.

Blessings,

 Virginia

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Single Mom Thriving: No Regrets

I was having lunch with a fellow divorced mom.  Out of the blue she asked me if I ever regretted getting divorced. I all but spit out my lunch.

Regret getting divorced? Never!  Not once!

She continued, "Not even for your kids? Don't you regret it for them? Don't you feel sorry for them?"

Regret the divorce for my kids? No.

Feel sorry for my kids? It never crossed my mind.

After that conversation I did a bit of google research. Not the best evidence based research, I know,but that conversation had me intrigued.  Sure enough, most of the articles claimed women regret divorcing  because it was so hard on the children.

You know what makes it hard on the children? Believing that it is going to be hard on the children for their entire lives.

Yes it is difficult for children to navigate through their parents' divorce. However, if the children are the parents' number one priority, as they should be, the children do just fine.

We must change the way we speak about children who are raised by single mothers. They are not to be pitied. They are not at a disadvantage. Believing they are is the problem.  Kids live up to our expectations.

I have never once felt sorry for my kids because they were raised by me. I gave them a kickass childhood.

I have no regrets.

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Blessings,

Virginia

Watch on Wednesday Creating Change Step 2

            Without change there would be no butterflies

Change in our lives is inevitable. Sometimes we long for it. Othertimes it is gifted to us. Either way, change is rarely comfortable.

This is the second video in the series I have crated to help you navigate changes that are happening in your life. You can watch the first video here.

Enjoy.

Here is the link to my blog 25 Ways To Sneak Exercise Into  Your Daily Routine.

Hope to hear from you. Happy moving!

Blessings,
Virginia

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