Single Mom Thriving: Advice

Take care of yourself.
As they instruct on an airplane, put your mask on before your child's.
Pamper yourself.
Your child deserves a healthy happy mom.
Get a massage, a pedicure, a manicure.
Go out with friends.
Go on dates.

This list is just a portion of advice for single moms that I have read or heard over the years.

When I read them or heard them, I didn't feel inspired. In fact, I felt downright awful.

As in, "To be happy, I have to do MORE?"

I am a firm believer in Single Moms putting themselves first and taking great care of themselves. However you can't follow someone else's recipe for happiness.

The single mom recipe for happiness can only be written by you.

Some things that helped me through the years:


* Pay close attention to your self talk. Aim to say only loving and kind things to yourself.

* You will mess up. Say kind loving things to yourself. All moms mess up. The mistake is not because you are a single mom.

* Include your children in the things you love to do. I love being outside in all weather. I spent hours on end  playing outside with my children. It refreshed me. I got my exercise. My children got their exercise and mostly we had fun.

* I taught my children at a young age that 6 am was the earliest they could get up for the day. That gave me 5-6 a.m to write and exercise.

* Dating or not dating can both be happiness boosters. You choose!

Being happy and taking excellent care of yourself is not about doing anything more. It is about enjoying what you have and being kind and loving to yourself.

If that means a massage and a manicure then go for it.. If that means a game of touch football in the yard go for it. There is no one cookie cutter happy single mom.

As the CEO of your family you choose what makes a single mom thrive.

Blesssings,
Virginia.

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Blessings,
Virginia

Begin. Today.

Carpe diem .

Live as if it was your last day.

You only have right now.

You only live once.

We have heard these sayings so much they have become cliche. The meaning is real. Because, like it or not, none of us are getting out of here alive. 

So how do we make today the only day?

You know that thing you have been wanting to do; The book you want to write.  The stronger body you long to have. The relationship you want to repair. The water colors you want to play with. The dance class you long to take. The thing that lingers in the back of your mind. The thing that you convince yourself you  don't have time to do. 

Start it.  

Today. 

Take one small step in the direction of your dreams. Today.

Write for thirty minutes or even ten.

Take a walk or dance around the kitchen,

Make the phone call.

Go to the store and buy the paints.

Sign up for the dance class.

Just begin. Today.

When man takes one step toward God, God takes more steps toward that man than there are sands in the worlds of time . - The Work of The Chariot.

Once you begin, things seem to magically happen. The walk becomes a jog. The writing sessions become a story. A relationship is repaired.The paints become art.  One dance class leads to another.

You just have to begin.  Today.

And keep beginning on every TODAY you are given.