"Oh Dear God I am so overwhelmed." On my one day off, I have said that in my head many times.
I said it:
When I looked at the paper pile I needed to sort through.
When an email made me feel like I wasn't doing enough.
When my puppy chewed my wallet to bits.
When I was figuring out kids' schedules.
When I looked at the house projects that have yet to be done that REALLY need to be done.
When a teen of mine got snarly and I got snarlier back.
"Dear God I am so overwhelmed."
While doing the dishes after my snarly 'not so loving mommy moment" , I prayed again. This time was different. This time I asked, "Show me where I am messing up God. Overwhelm is not yours or my plan."
I played with it a bit.
OVERWHELM:
Overloaded
Virginia
Exited the
Real
World where
Help is
Everywhere when you
Lovingly embrace
Miracles
I am heading back into the real world where help is everywhere and I lovingly embrace miracles.
Snarly and snarlier shared a laugh.
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Showing posts with label parenting. Show all posts
Judgement vs. Loving
The other night I overheard another parent talking about me. It was a negative rant. It was dark.Nobody knew I was sitting in a nearby car waiting to pick up my child. Nobody saw the tears rolling down my face.
After the tears came the' back at ya' thoughts.
Then came the praying and the journaling and the knowing.
I am just as guilty. OUCH!
I have made judgments about other parents. I have voiced these judgments to others. What if they heard me? What if I made some hard working uber loving mother cry?
That was a hard pill to swallow.
Since that night I have been paying close attention to how I judge myself and others. Interestingly enough I have caught myself saying to myself exactly what that parent said about me! I have also caught myself judging moms, dads and everyone.
Now when I hear the words that the mom in the parking lot spoke about me run through my head, I take a deep breath and say to myself, "You are an awesome mom Virginia."
Now when I catch myself judging anyone in my head, I don't say it out loud. I do what my mom taught me, I send a prayer of love.
Thank you lovely woman who made me cry. You taught me a great lesson.
Don't judge. Love instead.
After the tears came the' back at ya' thoughts.
Then came the praying and the journaling and the knowing.
I am just as guilty. OUCH!
I have made judgments about other parents. I have voiced these judgments to others. What if they heard me? What if I made some hard working uber loving mother cry?
That was a hard pill to swallow.
Since that night I have been paying close attention to how I judge myself and others. Interestingly enough I have caught myself saying to myself exactly what that parent said about me! I have also caught myself judging moms, dads and everyone.
Now when I hear the words that the mom in the parking lot spoke about me run through my head, I take a deep breath and say to myself, "You are an awesome mom Virginia."
Now when I catch myself judging anyone in my head, I don't say it out loud. I do what my mom taught me, I send a prayer of love.
Thank you lovely woman who made me cry. You taught me a great lesson.
Don't judge. Love instead.
A promise is a promise
A promise is a promise.
I promised myself I would write a blog everyday in October. As a single mom of three very busy kids, the promises I make to myself often get put on the back burner.
I make excuses.
I am done with the excuses.
Is this the best piece of writing I have ever created? Absolutely NOT. It just may be the WORST
Yet I made a promise to ME.
I am in the half century mark. Promises to me finally feel significant.
Make a promise to yourself. Laugh at the excuses. Notice the perceived barriers. Be kind to yourself
Do it anyways.
Love
I promised myself I would write a blog everyday in October. As a single mom of three very busy kids, the promises I make to myself often get put on the back burner.
I make excuses.
I am done with the excuses.
Is this the best piece of writing I have ever created? Absolutely NOT. It just may be the WORST
Yet I made a promise to ME.
I am in the half century mark. Promises to me finally feel significant.
Make a promise to yourself. Laugh at the excuses. Notice the perceived barriers. Be kind to yourself
Do it anyways.
Love
I just want them to be happy
" I just want them to be happy."
Every parent's ultimate dream is for their children to be happy. The problem is we can't. We can love them to the moon and back. We can provide a loving and nurturing home. We can cart them to every activity their heart desires. We can feed them the most nutritious meals and talk and laugh with them. But make them happy? That we cannot do.
Happiness is an inside job. The only person's happiness we have any control over is our own.
In my 18 years of parenting, this fact has always stumped me. Yet it has helped me to pay closer attention to my own sense of joy. The irony of it all is when I am happy from the inside out and when I am paying close attention to my joy meter my children seem to sense it and are thus more joyful themselves.
So any time I notice one of my children is in a slump, before I jump into the worry, I stop and pay attention to my own inner landscape. It is my joy that ultimately keeps my family on track.
Blessings,
Virginia
Looking to find more joy in yourself and with your children, I would be honored to help. virginiamccormack05@gmail.com.
Every parent's ultimate dream is for their children to be happy. The problem is we can't. We can love them to the moon and back. We can provide a loving and nurturing home. We can cart them to every activity their heart desires. We can feed them the most nutritious meals and talk and laugh with them. But make them happy? That we cannot do.
Happiness is an inside job. The only person's happiness we have any control over is our own.
In my 18 years of parenting, this fact has always stumped me. Yet it has helped me to pay closer attention to my own sense of joy. The irony of it all is when I am happy from the inside out and when I am paying close attention to my joy meter my children seem to sense it and are thus more joyful themselves.
So any time I notice one of my children is in a slump, before I jump into the worry, I stop and pay attention to my own inner landscape. It is my joy that ultimately keeps my family on track.
Blessings,
Virginia
Looking to find more joy in yourself and with your children, I would be honored to help. virginiamccormack05@gmail.com.
They are teaching me.
I entered motherhood naively believing that I would teach my children everything they needed to know and that the learning was one way. The older I get, and the older my children get, I realize more and more that such a premise is very far from the truth.
My children are teaching me and have been teaching me since the day they were born. These days as I watch the people they are becoming, I am learning more about myself.
My eldest is committed to his dream of playing college lacrosse and is pushing his body to it's limits. He encourages me to train for a few 5Ks.
My daughter is amazingly comfortable in her introverted and intellectual nature. She encourages me to embrace and love my introversion and thinker nature.
My youngest's 'take life lightly' approach reminds me not to worry so much about the small stuff or any stuff .
There is so much more about each of them. Every day is a different lesson for me. As I raise them on my own they help me become a better me.
These beautiful young people entrusted in my care are teaching me valuable lessons about myself as I give them the permission and the freedom to become who they are.
Single Mothering...such a blessing!
My children are teaching me and have been teaching me since the day they were born. These days as I watch the people they are becoming, I am learning more about myself.
My eldest is committed to his dream of playing college lacrosse and is pushing his body to it's limits. He encourages me to train for a few 5Ks.
My daughter is amazingly comfortable in her introverted and intellectual nature. She encourages me to embrace and love my introversion and thinker nature.
My youngest's 'take life lightly' approach reminds me not to worry so much about the small stuff or any stuff .
There is so much more about each of them. Every day is a different lesson for me. As I raise them on my own they help me become a better me.
These beautiful young people entrusted in my care are teaching me valuable lessons about myself as I give them the permission and the freedom to become who they are.
Single Mothering...such a blessing!
Quotes
I love quotes!
Quotes are like a great healthy snack. They nourish in just the right way and in just the right time.
I came across this one today.
Nothing has a stronger influence psychologically on their environment and especially on their children than the unlived life of the parent. C.J. Jung
It was a perfect find as I spent a few hours writing on today's snowday. I was feeling a tad guilty for writing as my children were doing their own thing. When I found this quote, I knew beyond a shadow of a doubt that me living MY life and taking care of MY creative needs is the best thing I could ever do for my children.
Naturally, once the writiing was done, snow fun began!
Blessings,
Virginia
Need help balancing your needs with your children's needs? I would love to help. virginiamccormack05@gmail.com.
Quotes are like a great healthy snack. They nourish in just the right way and in just the right time.
I came across this one today.
Nothing has a stronger influence psychologically on their environment and especially on their children than the unlived life of the parent. C.J. Jung
It was a perfect find as I spent a few hours writing on today's snowday. I was feeling a tad guilty for writing as my children were doing their own thing. When I found this quote, I knew beyond a shadow of a doubt that me living MY life and taking care of MY creative needs is the best thing I could ever do for my children.
Naturally, once the writiing was done, snow fun began!
Blessings,
Virginia
Need help balancing your needs with your children's needs? I would love to help. virginiamccormack05@gmail.com.
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