I was blessed to share a day with a friend I haven't seen in over 12 years.
We were talking careers and money.
I said I made enough. I said this with a bit of shame.
Her response, "Enough is better than an excess."
Since then I have been thinking about enough.
Webster's definition of enough "occurring in such quantity, quality or scope as to fully meet demands, needs or expectations."
Brene Brown wowed the world with her Power of Being Enough.
Enough is perfect. Enough is you. Enough is me.
If you have enough count yourself blessed.
I sure do.
Blessings,
Virignia
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Showing posts with label Brene Brown. Show all posts
Single Mom Thriving: I Am Enough.
When I first became a single mom, I spent many sleepless nights worrying about my children's future.
I was paralyzed in fear with the same question swirling in my head,"How can I be both Mom and Dad?"
Then one day in the wee hours of the morning it hit me, "I don't have to be mom and dad."
Every cell in my body felt immediate relief.
In Brene Brown's words I finally embraced, "I am imperfect AND I am enough."
I let go of the notion that I had to be anything more than myself in order for my children to thrive.
Being myself meant that sometimes I had to miss events. I have missed many of my son's college lacrosse games.
Sometimes I had to choose one child's event over the other. Just recently I chose to take prom pictures with my senior daughter's group of friends instead of my sophomore son's group of friends.
Being myself meant sometimes they had to find their own rides.
Trusting that I was enough in these moments meant guilt was not an option.
I let go of the fear that my single mom status was going to damage my children.
I ignored every ridiculous statistic about children growing up with a single mother.
I fully committed to raising happy, healthy children.
My marital status was in no way going to deter that goal.
I let go of the idea that parenting teens was going to be hard as a single mom.
Teenagers are amazing human beings.
It is a roller coaster ride for all parents.
In many ways this time is easier as a single parent. I make the rules!
I no longer stay awake at night worrying about how my single mom status will effect my children.
Mostly I go to bed wondering how it all went so fast.
I was paralyzed in fear with the same question swirling in my head,"How can I be both Mom and Dad?"
Then one day in the wee hours of the morning it hit me, "I don't have to be mom and dad."
Every cell in my body felt immediate relief.
In Brene Brown's words I finally embraced, "I am imperfect AND I am enough."
I let go of the notion that I had to be anything more than myself in order for my children to thrive.
Being myself meant that sometimes I had to miss events. I have missed many of my son's college lacrosse games.
Sometimes I had to choose one child's event over the other. Just recently I chose to take prom pictures with my senior daughter's group of friends instead of my sophomore son's group of friends.
Being myself meant sometimes they had to find their own rides.
Trusting that I was enough in these moments meant guilt was not an option.
I let go of the fear that my single mom status was going to damage my children.
I ignored every ridiculous statistic about children growing up with a single mother.
I fully committed to raising happy, healthy children.
My marital status was in no way going to deter that goal.
I let go of the idea that parenting teens was going to be hard as a single mom.
Teenagers are amazing human beings.
It is a roller coaster ride for all parents.
In many ways this time is easier as a single parent. I make the rules!
I no longer stay awake at night worrying about how my single mom status will effect my children.
Mostly I go to bed wondering how it all went so fast.
A word for 2014
As I was setting my intentions for 2014, I decided to look back to my intentions for 2013. It struck me that they were quite similar and I imagine they were quite similar in 2012 and 2011.
I know it doesn't take a genius to realize that most New Year's resolutions rarely come into fruition yet I wanted a guiding light entering into 2014. I wanted something to lean into for all of 2014.
Then I found this http://thedailylove.com/love-2014/ by Robert Holden, one of my favorite authors. I didn't need an entire laundry list of things I wanted to accomplish in 2014. I only needed a word.
I looked at my intentions from years gone by that kept repeating and my word for 2014 became crystal clear. 2014 is about me being BRAVE.
In the words of Brene Brown, "Courage starts when we show up and let ourselves be seen."
Hello 2014
Hello BRAVE
I know it doesn't take a genius to realize that most New Year's resolutions rarely come into fruition yet I wanted a guiding light entering into 2014. I wanted something to lean into for all of 2014.
Then I found this http://thedailylove.com/love-2014/ by Robert Holden, one of my favorite authors. I didn't need an entire laundry list of things I wanted to accomplish in 2014. I only needed a word.
I looked at my intentions from years gone by that kept repeating and my word for 2014 became crystal clear. 2014 is about me being BRAVE.
In the words of Brene Brown, "Courage starts when we show up and let ourselves be seen."
Hello 2014
Hello BRAVE
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