Back to the Basics

I have learned much in these past 11 years raising three children on my own.

One of the best self learned lessons is how to respond when a child is on my radar. We  have all been in the zone when we know 'somethin' just aint right' with one child or another. Our momma radar becomes on high alert. The hunch kind of makes sleep difficult. With no other parent available,  the monkey mind goes on a picnic feeding us with every worst possible scenario. Panic sets in. Guilt follows. Tears may come when nobody is looking. Then we feel very very small and question our ability to parent.

I have been there over and over again. Somewhere in the feelings of small and incompetent I attempt prayer, meditation and taking care of me. Then I remember: Back to the Basics.

Back to the basics:
1. Food
2. Sleep
3. Fresh air/exercise

These three basics have worked from ages 2-17.

Back to the Basics brings back the equilibrium, ends the drama and the solution presents itself.

Next time you, single momma or married momma  feel your child is off, go back to the basics. Take an honest look at your food intake and your child's food intake. Go to bed earlier and make sure your child does too. Go outside and move with your child. Do something special for YOU.

Then and only then the solution presents itself.

And once again you are back to feeling big and competent.

Blessings,
Virginia