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 I believe we are perfect, exactly the way we are in this moment.

Often the piece missing, the big thing that we feel is lost or we can't grasp is ourselves.

What you are missing is you, perfectly wonderful you!

It is never outside of yourself.

It doesn't need fixing or need to be found.

It simply needs to have light shine on it.

That is what I do. I help shine a light on your perfection so you can live your life honoring your gifts and sharing your uniqueness with the world.

Transitions in life are stepping stones to something better. Yes, those stepping stones are a bit rough. Most growth is uncomfortable.

The real work isn't about getting the new job, or starting over after divorce, or figuring out what happens next.

                   The real work is changing your mind about yourself.

Once you have a true appreciation for who you really are, anything is possible.

Let me shine the light on you. You will be amazed at the miracles that follow.

Email me at here  for a free consultation. I look forward to hearing from you.

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Blessings,
Virginia

Seven Sentences That Sum Up Coaching Success

 Some of my favorite client quotes also sum up why coaching works.

These are seven of my favorite sentences.

"I never looked at it like that."
     Reframing is the cornerstone of my work. It is easy to get mired up in our own story of the way things are.  Often just a small tilt of perception opens up new solutions that you didn't know existed.  It is always how you look at it.

"I caught myself in the middle of trash talk and was able to turn it around it seconds."
      Trash talk is the gremlin ego that wants so badly to convince you that you are flawed. We all have it. The trick is to notice it when it is happening and to turn it around. This is a skill that needs constant practice. It is also one of the frist lessons I teach clients.

"My home feels so nurturing that I love coming home"
        My coaching practice includes utilizing Feng  Shui fundamentals. I believe your home mirrors your life and I help clients create a home that is inviting and nurturing.

"I really don't have to be perfect."
  Amen! Perfection blocks success. Nobody is perfect at anything. Good enough is  good enough!

"By putting myself first, I am taking better care of my children."
     We all know the airplane theory: Your mask goes on before your child's. Living it is another story, because there is so much to do as a mom. However committing to even one small act of self care each and every day makes a huge difference.

"My mind isn't so foggy now that I got rid of the clutter in my closet."
     Holding on to stuff we no longer need or want truly has a negative effect on our lies. Clearing out has immediate positive results.

"I actually believe in myself."
    I believed in you the moment we met.

The Secret to Trying Something New

 I love to garden and I have had years of success in creating beautiful perennial beds.

However, when it comes to growing food, my success has been marginal. This year, I decided to try square foot gardening. I did copious research when the snow was still flying and in my mind I created the perfect square foot garden.

I had all of the materials to build my three boxes in early May.
Yet I didn't begin to build them until early June.

I had all of my seeds in April.
Yet I just finished planting last week.

I knew part of my experiment was to grow my tomatoes vertically.
Yet I just now finished putting up the fencing.

So what was with all of that procrastination?

Plain and simple, I got too attached to my vision of the perfect square foot garden.

When we get too attached to an outcome, inspired action is thwarted. When we let go of the outcome,  fun happens.

Here's how I let go of my perfect square foot garden outcome.

* Kind, loving self talk. "You can do this Gin." or "You're doing a great job"

* Bringing attention to success. My snap peas are looking glorious and I haven't had to buy any greens since May. (I did my lettuce, arugula, spinach and snap peas in a traditional row.

* Enjoying the process. Mixing compost, peat moss and vermiculite with my hands was more fun than play doh!  Building the boxes myself made me feel strong. Cutting up old sheets and using them to tie the tomato branches to the fence made me laugh at myself.

*Let it be and trust. I will nurture my garden, but like anything else, the rest is up to God.