We just have to be willing to forgive.
Let's make forgiveness a spiritual practice. Let's start with ourselves!
Blessings,
Virginia
Single Mom Thriving: Mick Mulvaney have you ever spoken to a single mom?
In the recent news cycle the White House budget director, Mick Mulvaney, says our country cannot ask a single mom from Detroit to pay for PBS.
I have to ask, " Mr. Mulvaney, Mr. Trump and the entire White House, have you ever spoken to a single mom from Detroit?
Have you ever spoken to a single mom from anywhere in the USA?"
Evidently not.
If you had spoken to even one single mom, you would know that tax dollars spent is not on our radar.
PBS isn't even on our radar.
Raising children is on our 24/7 radar.
Go ahead cut free lunches, cut PBS, cut health insurance.
Cut everything you think single moms do not deserve.
We single moms will still raise our children seven days a week, 24 hours a day.
And we will do a fine job.
Single Moms create leaders.
Leaders in our schools, leaders in our commuity and one of the best leaders of our country.
Please do not pretend you are doing single moms a favor.
Many single moms left abuse that looks just like what you are doing.
You use your power to make your hurting look like helping.
Us Single Moms are on to you.
We are a tough bunch.
You won't take us down!
Mr. Mulvaney and Mr. Trump,
Stop pretending your budget supports single moms.
Because it doesn't.
It only supports you.
Many blessings,
Peace and love,
Virginia
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I have to ask, " Mr. Mulvaney, Mr. Trump and the entire White House, have you ever spoken to a single mom from Detroit?
Have you ever spoken to a single mom from anywhere in the USA?"
Evidently not.
If you had spoken to even one single mom, you would know that tax dollars spent is not on our radar.
PBS isn't even on our radar.
Raising children is on our 24/7 radar.
Go ahead cut free lunches, cut PBS, cut health insurance.
Cut everything you think single moms do not deserve.
We single moms will still raise our children seven days a week, 24 hours a day.
And we will do a fine job.
Single Moms create leaders.
Leaders in our schools, leaders in our commuity and one of the best leaders of our country.
Please do not pretend you are doing single moms a favor.
Many single moms left abuse that looks just like what you are doing.
You use your power to make your hurting look like helping.
Us Single Moms are on to you.
We are a tough bunch.
You won't take us down!
Mr. Mulvaney and Mr. Trump,
Stop pretending your budget supports single moms.
Because it doesn't.
It only supports you.
Many blessings,
Peace and love,
Virginia
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Course in Miracles Monday
Seek not outside yourself. For it will fail. ACIM
Outside of yourself may help a wee bit.
It will be a distraction.
A maybe timeout.
But it will not heal or lead to growth.
Go within.
There is your answer.
Go get quiet.
Go dance to your favorite song.
Go be with someone you love.
Get outside.
Look at the sky.
Hug a tree.
Say thank you.
A million times.
Your answer is within.
Blessings,
Virginia
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In meditation the miracle is in the return.
In meditation we learn to gently bring our thoughts back to our breath. It doesn't matter how many times we have to do it. We just keep coming back.
In meditation we also learn that our thoughts are simply to be noticed. You don't beat yourself up for thinking of your breakfast menu, your to do list or an angry thought during mediatation. You simply return to breath.
Many say the return to breath is the entire reason to meditate.
Those minutes in meditation can teach us about reaching our goals.
And to embrace the miracle of the return.
I made the goal of writing a blog everyday in 2017.
For various reasons, I did not post a blog one day.
I got irritated at myself.
And didn't write one the next day.
Then got even angrier and skipped yet another day.
"I just may as well give up" I told myself.
We all have similar stories.
We make a mistake in the quest of achieving something and we give up.
Maybe there is another way.
Maybe achieving our goals could be like meditation.
We set a goal.
We get off track.
We notice it.
We get right back on track.
If we attempt to achieve a goal like we meditate, we leave out the suffering.
In meditation it simply doesn't matter how many times you drift into thought. The only thing that matters is you come back.
It is the same with achieving anything.
It doesn't matter how many times you get off course. The only thing that matters is that you get right back without the suffering.
Blessings,
Virginia
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A Course in Miracles Monday
Let's all be willing to accept that which is true.
Within each and every one of us.
Perfect love exists.
We don't have to perfect to accept this truth.
We simply must accept it.
Blessings,
Virginia
Feng Shui Friday
I teach courses on Feng Shui and I also incorporate it in my coaching practice and in my own home. It is a wonderful tool in creating a more tranquil and enjoyable life. I am dedicating Friday's blog to all things Feng Shui.
This is the third week of the nine week Bagua Map course. The Bagua map shows where the nine areas (guas) are located in your home.Each week I will give you tips on how to enhance one of the guas in your life in each area of your home. This week I will cover Abundant Blessings.
The abundance blessings area, often referred to as the money corner, isn't all about money. It is located in the far left area of your home and it is about being grateful for all of your blessings. I like to refer to this gua as the gratitude area. What we are grateful for expands.
Ways to enhance this area;
*Always start with cleaning and decluttering.
*Pictures and objects that symbolize abundance to you.
*A fountain or picture of raging water.
*The color purple or gold.
My gratitude area is outside due to a screened porch and deck that juts out of the back middle of my house. I marked the corner with a bird feeder. I love watching the birds from my kitchen window. Right now there is an abundance of snow.
This is the third week of the nine week Bagua Map course. The Bagua map shows where the nine areas (guas) are located in your home.Each week I will give you tips on how to enhance one of the guas in your life in each area of your home. This week I will cover Abundant Blessings.
The abundance blessings area, often referred to as the money corner, isn't all about money. It is located in the far left area of your home and it is about being grateful for all of your blessings. I like to refer to this gua as the gratitude area. What we are grateful for expands.
Ways to enhance this area;
*Always start with cleaning and decluttering.
*Pictures and objects that symbolize abundance to you.
*A fountain or picture of raging water.
*The color purple or gold.
My gratitude area is outside due to a screened porch and deck that juts out of the back middle of my house. I marked the corner with a bird feeder. I love watching the birds from my kitchen window. Right now there is an abundance of snow.
I have a garden overflowing with tiger lilies under all of that snow.
When you have an area outside, it is important to enhance the adjacent room's area. Right now my fruit art is in the far left in my kitchen. Now that is some yummy grateful abundance !
Have fun! Remember Feng Shui is pronounced FUN Shway. Enjoy making your home a mirror of your wonderful life.
Blessings,
Virginia
Best Blogs of March
I have received numerous emails from readers asking me to do more roundups so they can have a list to peruse.
You ask.
I answer.
Here is a list of the most liked March blog posts since 2013.
March 2013:
Making March Meaningful
Such great memories here. It is no wonder why so many loved it. He was so little. Now he is so big!! This is a funny post. Read to the end!
March 2014:
Being Brave
Brave is being here NOW just as you are.March 2015:
Feng Shui Friday
Want more abundance in your life? This post is about enhancing your abundance using the bagua map. I have a free e book /course on the bagua map that you can have when you sign up to my email community. This is one of the lessons.
March 2016:
Stop Searching and Start Discovering
Looking for your life purpose? Look no more.
So that's the March roundup.
Happy reading.
Many blessings,
Virginia
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Lent A time to recognize love.
These forty days aren't about giving anything up.
These forty days are about loving yourself.
If fasting leads you closer to who you want to be. Go for it!
If giving something up makes you more of yourself. Go for it!
Regardless of your religion, faith in God, or your proclaimed spirituality,
Something great lies within you!
It has nothing to do with religion or your version of God.
It is all about love.
Love lies within each and everyone of us.
Make Lent a time to conect with that Love.
By being quiet.
By appreciating what is right here.
By being kinder to yourself.
For forty days be a loving kindness to YOU!
Loving kindness to you leads to lovng kindness to everyone you meet.
Let's do this.
Let's Love ourselves even more!
Blessings,
Virginia
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March is about trusting.
Trusting March
Tomorrow welcomes March. I have written about it here
March is my least favorite month of the year.
For us New Englanders, March is unpredictable.
I so hate the not knowing.
I hate that I cannot predict.
Snow?
Melting of snow?
Daffodils popping up?
A warm day?
It is all in Mother's Nature's hand.
What I want and what Mother nature/spirit/ God gives to me sometimes doesn't make sense.
So I trust.
March is about trusting!
Good days lie ahead regardless of the weather.
Spring always comes.
Let's make March about trusting.
If I trust, March might become the best month of the year.!
Ler's all trust!
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Blessings,
Virginia
Happy March!
Monday's Course In Miracles
I am blessed as a child of God. All good things are mine, because God intended them for me. ACIM
My Mom
Eleven years ago today my mom died.
My dad called to let me know.
"Your mom loves you and so do I."
I knew it was coming.
I had already said goodbye as I rubbed her feet.
My mom was at death's door when she gave birth to me, her tenth child.
Yes TENTH.
She told me the story many times.
My mom's prayer at my birth, "Don't leave Joe with 10 kids. Let me raise this child."
My words to my mom as I rubbbed her feet, " You can go mom. You raised me. I'm okay. Heaven has no altzheimers...But I am going to need you. "
My Mom has been here all of these eleven years.
Call me crazy.
I call on my Mom when I need to find something important.
Then I find it.
I call on my mom everytime I am in a pickle.
I feel her presence.
I talk to her all of the time.
In many ways I am closer to her now.
Blessings,
Virginia
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My dad called to let me know.
"Your mom loves you and so do I."
I knew it was coming.
I had already said goodbye as I rubbed her feet.
My mom was at death's door when she gave birth to me, her tenth child.
Yes TENTH.
She told me the story many times.
My mom's prayer at my birth, "Don't leave Joe with 10 kids. Let me raise this child."
My words to my mom as I rubbbed her feet, " You can go mom. You raised me. I'm okay. Heaven has no altzheimers...But I am going to need you. "
My Mom has been here all of these eleven years.
Call me crazy.
I call on my Mom when I need to find something important.
Then I find it.
I call on my mom everytime I am in a pickle.
I feel her presence.
I talk to her all of the time.
In many ways I am closer to her now.
Blessings,
Virginia
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Ask yourself.
Ask yourself.
Your real self knows.
Everything.
When we go within.
When we get silent.
When we listen.
To the nudgings.
And the knowings.
When we act on those inner voices.
The voices that seem crazy to the world.
We become free.
Everything we need to know is inside.
Go get quiet.
Blessings,
Virginia
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Work With Me
I believe we are perfect, exactly the way we are in this moment.
Often the piece missing, the big thing that we feel is lost or we can't grasp is ourselves.
What you are missing is you, perfectly wonderful you!
It is never outside of yourself.
It doesn't need fixing or need to be found.
It simply needs to have light shine on it.
That is what I do. I help shine a light on your perfection so you can live your life honoring your gifts and sharing your uniqueness with the world.
Transitions in life are stepping stones to something better. Yes, those stepping stones are a bit rough. Most growth is uncomfortable.
The real work isn't about getting the new job, or starting over after divorce, or figuring out what happens next.
The real work is changing your mind about yourself.
Once you have a true appreciation for who you really are, anything is possible.
Let me shine the light on you. You will be amazed at the miracles that follow.
Email me at here for a free consultation. I look forward to hearing from you.
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Blessings,
Virginia
Love Forgives
Love makes mistakes. Love forgives. Love never harbors guilt.
After more than 16 years and over 200,000 miles, my green queen simply died. You can read my tribute to my beloved mini van here.
I was so excited when I bought my new Ford Focus. I named her Zippy. It was the car I had been wanting for so long!
I love driving it. I love the gas mileage. I am beyond grateful to have such a reliable vehicle. My kids know this.
My youngest recently got his license. We share Zippy. He pays a small portion of the insurance hike and is great about tossing in a few bucks of gas.
He is a great driver.
If I don't need my car, I let him take it.
He came home this morning after practice, "Mom?.."
The look on his face was horrifying.
I thought someone had died.
"It's your car."
He hit a friend's truck backing out. There is a big old dent in the side of my car. His friend's truck has no damage.
I hugged him.
Then I said," You poor thing. You must feel horrible. It is okay. It is just a dent in a car."
He asked me why I felt sorry for him.
I shared a memory.
When he was in fourth grade I accidentally slammed the green queen's door on his hand. I was dropping off his siblings at the junior high.
He was climbing into the front seat as I wished them off. I shut the door without even looking and then screamed when I turned back.
No bones were broken. He got a cool cast to protect his bruised fingers.
All day at school whenever an adult asked him about his cast, their response was, " Oh your poor mother"
He didn't get it.
I think he gets it now.
Love makes mistakes. Love forgives. Love never harbors guilt.
Blessings,
Virginia
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Blogs worth following
These five blogs are worth following.
Jennifer Louden
Do you want to create something? Jen Louden will get your creative juices flowing with more love than you could imagine. She is soo real!
Seth Godin
He is Seth Godin. He is uber popular. His posts are extremely thought provoking. I learn something everyday from this guy.
Jon Morrow
Want to start a blog? Read Jon's blog. He knows blogging better than anyone on the web. He is also a parapalegic. Wrap that around your head. Jon is both an inspiration and a genius.
Heather Spohr
Heather is a mom blogger and a philanthropist. Her blogs are about her life as a mom of three. One of those three resides in heaven. Her bravery astounds me. Her ability to carry on astounds me. She is honest and full of love! Her kids are adorable!!
Blessings,
Virginia
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Monday Course In Miracles
Nothing can hurt you unless you give it power to do so. ACIM
You do not have to pick up a rock to throw.
Or a word to sling.
You have all of the power in every situation.
When you go within.
Our true power lies inside of us.
We all have access to that power.
When we become silent.
Blessings,
Virginia
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Stop rushing and make time matter
I was running late. I was scrambling to get to a meeting. I was rushing like a crazy woman.
Running around the corner to the steps I stubbed my toe on the book case. I hit it with such force, I both swore and knocked a picture to the floor.
"Ugh!! I am so late!" I said outloud as I picked the picture up.
I sat on the steps and stared at my parents as my toe began its throbbing ache. (Or was that the ache in my heart?)
In those few moments I thought about time.
Rushing is a waste of time.
Rushing makes us clumsy. Dealing with clumsy takes even more time.
When we do one thing at a time and
When we are present to that one thing,
We actually become more efficient.
A meaningful life is simply made up of meaningful moments.
Rushing creates a busy life but rarely a meaningful one.
Next time you are running late:
Stop rushing.
Take a breath.
Do one thing at time.
Make each thing meaningful.
The world doesn't end if you are late to something.
Your world ends when you miss the present moment.
Blessings,
Virginia
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Things you might not know about me.
1. I am the youngest of ten.
Yes. I have nine older siblings.
Hold on to your seats.....My mom gave birth to ten children in less than eleven years.
Sometimes I try to figure the diaper thing. There were no disposable diapers back then. I cannot fathom it.
Sometimes I wonder about the mothering piece. How in the name of God did she nurture that many children??
She did and all ten of us are pretty amazing.
2. I taught myself to ride a bike.
Duh! I have nine older siblings. We didn't have bikes.
But once one was found in the garage of a house where we lived in. My brother made it work.
I was determined!
As a fifth grader ,every day after school I would take that bike out and practice.
I would lean on the porch. I would lean on the side of the garage. I would fall so many times.
Then one day I simply soared.
And then fell down on a hill.
But I tried it again.
I can ride a bike.
3. I beat someone up .
She was bullying my friend who was helping me with my math. I told her to stop. She poured milk over my head. I got a bit crazy and threw her across a few lunch tables.
4. I was bullied.
That whole beating up thing lead to years of being bullied.
That bullying helped me as a parent. One of the the best blessings ever! I talked to my kids and was real with my kids about bullying because I experienced it!
5. I had my first panic attack at 14.
Panic attacks and I are great friends. So many wonderful therapists, healers, and loved friends have helped me with this one. I now know the pre pre pre signs. I know the preventative steps of eating well, exercising and connecting with God.
Medicine can help too. I just never chose that route.
6. My college choice was bizarre.
My Dad wanted me to check out one more. He took me to the place where he went to be a Priest. (Something I never knew.) St. Bonavetnure University. I loved it sorta.
Then there I was in the admin building after my tour and my father said, "Do you like it or not?"
I sheepishly replied, "I like it."
He paid the deposit. My college was decicded.
Best four years ever!!
7. I put myself through college.
I got loans. I worked my butt off. I paid my own way to get a college degree. I wish this was possible for kids today. College is too expensive. My kids work and get loans and get scholarships. But the paying your own way to college is crazy. I am blessed that my kids take after me. They do what they can to pay their way. Thus, like me, they own their college experience.
7. As a waitress, I once slipped and dropped twelve plates of food.
It was a five star establishment. I was a ninja waitress. I easily carried a tray on my shoulder with up to 15 plates. To this day, I am not sure what happened. I guess I tripped on a something.
Trout heads went flying. Linguini was everywhere.
The one hosting and paying told me it was he best show he had ever seen. And thanked me .
Best tip I ever got!
More tomorrow.
Blessings.
Virginia,
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Feng Shui Friday: Clearing Out Is All About the Baby Steps.
I gave my self wiggle room. If I couldn't do 25 minutes that was okay.
The purpose of the goal was to spend some time each and every day clearing out. The each and every day mattered more than the time spent doing it. I simply cleared out each and every day.
If we do something each and every day it becames a habit.
The doing it matters more than the time spent doing it.
So here I am 48 days of clearing something out.
It feels great.
Yes! Due to snowstorms, free hours spent shoveling and life, there are bags and boxes in my garage to be taken to various places. I am just blessing my garage as a holding place.
I love my empty spaces. I love the letting go.
Yet what I am learning most is what I already knew.
Everything happens a lttle bit at a time.
Do that little bit today!
It is all about baby steps.
Many blessings,
Virginia.
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